Vi has died I have had a link to Vi's Page for awhile now. If you remember she is my friends mother who was diagnosed with cancer. Yesterday I was checking on any updates to her condition when I read her sons latest update. Vi died yesterday morning.

This had quite an impact on me. It happened way too fast. She was just up the day before having breakfast with everybody and then yesterday she wouldn't wake up. I immediately got off the internet and called Cheryl. She was very numb to the situation as I'm sure alot of her family were shocked. Cheryl said she had called hospice because her mother's breathing was not sounding right. I knew by what she described that she was hearing the death rattle. What a terrible term but widely used when describing someone in the last stage of dying. Her mother died before hospice could come. She described the situation of all the family members gathered around her mother's bed. She had wanted to keep her mother there for an extra day, I guess so other family could come and say their goodbyes. This was not feasible. She said the hardest thing was watching the funeral home workers putting her mother in a bag and zipping her up. I think this would have been horrifying! I thought they would have put her on a gurney and taken her out that way. Maybe they do it different now, I don't know.

She went on to explain that at least her mother didn't have to go through the agony and pain that everyone said she would have to endure. That at least she went peacefully in her sleep. Even though she has lots of family and friends around I wanted to be there for her. Even though I know Cheryl won't read this as she doesn't do computers and internet I want to say, I am so sorry about your mother, so sorry.
  ¶ 1/24/2005 07:29:00 AM